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January 15, 2005
Undone
My boyfriend's mother died last night. It happened suddenly. His cell phone rang about 11:15 p.m. You know how you get that feeling by just looking at someone, and that something is wrong. My boyfriend is Mexican, and he was speaking in Spanish, and I only understand a little so I wasn't exactly sure what was going on.
I will always remember the sound of three loud bangs (he must have hit a door with his fist). I heard that sound, he walked into the study, and told me his mother died a half hour ago. She possibly had a heart attack, but he couldn't confirm this. It's amazing how quickly sadness just washes over you.
We immediately started checking online for flights, so he could head back to Mexico tomorrow. He was concerned about his job, and how much time off he would be able to get (the company he works for is not known to be extremely flexible). He spoke with many members of his family trying to get details and figure things out.
This morning, the sadness finally hit him. I was feeling quite helpless, not knowing what to do or say. I'm hoping that I was comforting enough. He was feeling very regretful over many things: the fact that he never got to say goodbye to her, that she never had the opportunity to come to the United States and see his life here, and that she hadn't received some things that he had mailed her.
He said that everything just feels undone. This morning was the first time that I ever say my boyfriend cry. That was incredibly heartbreaking.
09:08 PM | Comments (7) | Posted in: Family , Self
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I'm sorry, Michael. Deepest condolences and best wishes to both you and your boyfriend.
Posted by: j4r3d at March 15, 2005 10:20 PM
My sincere condolences to you both. May he find the comfort he needs in your arms.
Posted by: albert at March 16, 2005 06:12 AM
Sorry to hear that. Sending you condolences, and wishes of peace and strength.
Posted by: Jeff at March 16, 2005 08:46 AM
My heart sank when I read this post this morning. It makes us aware how precious life is, doesn't it? My condolences and best regards to you and your partner. -Todd
Posted by: Todd at March 16, 2005 10:02 AM
Our most sincere regrets. Anceert, his family and you are in our thoughts.
Posted by: dominica & matty at March 16, 2005 05:30 PM
I'm sure you were comforting enough to Anseert. Knowing how caring and thoughtful you are, I'm glad he has you to lean on. We are thinking of you during this difficult time. Our deepest sympathy to the both of you.
Posted by: John & Tonya at March 16, 2005 08:59 PM
lamento la muerte de la madre de tu pareja, mis condolencia a ambos.
Posted by: JOSÉ LUIS at March 16, 2005 10:47 PM
